Going first

Gabby Reece, athlete, author, mum and wife often talks of  “going first.” I first heard it as part of a Tim Ferriss interview with Laird Hamilton (her husband and famously talented surfer) .  Going first means making the initial eye contact or being the first one to say “hello” as you pass someone or stand in a queue at the post office.

I’ve been doing this for a long while now and the results can be amazing, positive and mostly appreciated. It’s too easy to opt out of action, so making a conscious effort to go first is a great way to add confidence and positive tension to your life, all while spreading a little happiness along the way.

I’ve noticed the by-product and carry on of ‘going first’ has been my initiative. I’ve been more willing to initiate a difficult conversation, start that task I’ve been putting off and overcome phases of unhappiness.

I continue to write ‘go first’ in my daily journal each morning to remind me. It also sets me up with a daily approach focused on positive connection.

Try it, you’ll be amazed how it makes you (and others) feel.

 

22nd September 2017

What a week it’s been, I’m looking forward to some downtime before I initiate a big change in my life, I’ve booked a few days here: http://www.kidsloveyurts.co.uk/ where there is no wifi and we’re planning on not using technology for anything other than phone calls / msgs and maps.

1. Quote that’s helped me stay tuned in on any aches and pains I have: “Do not complain about growing old, it’s a privilege denied to many” – Mark Twain. I don’t hear much about Mark Twain nowadays, he’s one of the greatest American writers in history so it’s a shame. His humour and entrepreneurship are inspiring and this quote has helped me make sure I’m grateful even during the hardest of times

2. TED talks have been a bit overhyped for me recently, though I found this one on gaining control of time and the 2 simple actions she gives (I won’t spoil it, watch the vid) have already started to make a difference, it’s unmissable.

3. On the subject of time, you may remember a while ago my talk about the Pomodoro technique. Well I’ve been using this website for a while now and highly recommend it: https://tomato-timer.com/

4. My son Mack has started school for the first time and in order to keep his system up for coping with all the disease and germs I’ve found this great tasting breakfast smoothie, a good way to get greens into you and any kids you may have: 1 cup unsweetened almond milk – 1 cup frozen berries – 1 banana, peeled – 2 cups kale, ribs removed, coarsely chopped – 1/2 cup pitted and coarsely chopped medjool dates.

5. A friend shared this link about successful people and compound time, it’s an inspiring read and I’ve been able to cross reference many of the actions with ones I’ve implemented for myself, giving me confidence that what feels good is actually good for me, check it out.

15th September 2017

Yikes, it’s nearly the weekend, hold on tight we’re headed into Autumn.

1. Quote I’m pondering this week “Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves and spend without fear of bankruptcy” – Fred De Witt Van Amburgh. I still actively write in my gratitude journal everyday (https://www.intelligentchange.com/products/the-five-minute-journal) and my life is far from perfect (who’s is?) though I make sure to be grateful for the smallest things, they can add up to a wonderful life.

2. Wow, cryptocurrency is starting to go mainstream. Interestingly, many people under 35 are viewing crypto currency as their retirement fund, seeing traditional markets as corrupt and failing us, great article here https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/03/style/what-is-cryptocurrency.html?mcubz=3

3. A couple of years ago I read the book 10% Happier by Dan Harris. It literally changed me within the course of a week and I’ve never looked back. Recently I started listening to his podcast https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/10-happier-with-dan-harris/id1087147821?mt=2 He has some great guests and I highly recommend it if living life to the full interests you.

4. A few years ago I decided to stop reading magazines, watching the news and filling my life with content decided by corporations. I broke that rule for the last year with just one publication. I’ve been receiving Inc magazine each month, I think it’s worth it. I used to get HBR though it’s a year or 2 behind the times as represents large corporations. Inc is all about startups and its subjects are at the tip of the spear. It’s dirt cheap to subscribe in the USA (just Google it) for those in the UK interested have a look here:
http://www.newsstand.co.uk/196-Business-and-Finance-Magazines/15800-Subscribe-to-INC-MAGAZINE-Magazine-Subscription.aspx

5. Book I’m reading The Advantage by Patrick Lencioni – it’s all about the importance of organisational health, it trumps everything and I agree. It’s a great book. For those that don’t fancy another book in their life you can listen to this 20 minute synopsis that’s pretty good https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8JxBfhKyJM

 

8th September 2017

It’s 5 share Friday again! I’m not sure why it’s 5 when I’ve read the science behind humans only remembering 3 things, but hey, 2 extra for the price of 3 isn’t bad.
 
1. Quote I’m pondering this week “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” Earl Nightingale
 
2. A friend inspired me to look at Intermittent fasting as it’s coming to light that this helps with ageing. I’ve been researching Art De Vany in light of this as he covers whole life (including fasting)
http://www.cbass.com/TheNewEvolutionDiet.htm I’m skipping various meals during the week and already feeling better for it.
 
3. Wondering which country to move to later in life? I am, this is helping and it’s also an insightful look at how to use the data https://www.inc.com/quora/these-surprising-countries-will-be-amazing-places-to-live-in-30-years.html
 
4. Book I’m reading: Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World it’s pretty amazing and full of data analysis for those who like that sort of thing (the type of analysis that’s high level).
 
5. A friend shared this link with me: https://www.pri.org/stories/2014-10-23/world-actually-safer-ever-and-heres-data-prove it’s got lots of data, check it out, it’s interesting stuff.