5 Share Friday 3 May 2019

Quote I’m pondering “If they can train you to do it, then eventually they will train a computer to do it.” – Naval Ravikant

The best 1hr 16 mins I spent this week – Watching Call to Courage with Brene Brown. It’s funny and potentially life changing. Pertinent for me was the focus on ordinary moments i.e. the moments you’ll miss when they’re gone, yet might annoy while they happen. Things like having to get your kids out of bed for school in the morning, or walking your dog in the rain and getting wet. When these moments are gone it’s most likely we’ll want them back, even though at the time they were seen as bothersome.

Forbes did a great write up on why you should watch this here, it’s worth the read.

Quick inspiring read – Seths blog in early April described the Avocado principles beautifully. In essence – Plant your tree before you need the shade.

Favourite appHemingway app (desktop not phone) – I’m doing more and more writing lately. Most of it is sh#tty first drafts, yet I’m getting better from using the Hemingway app (free in web browser, $19.99 for desktop). This app highlights potential areas that need improvement. It even has WordPress integration.

If you write anything from emails to actual published content, the Hemingway app could easily become a critical tool for you (great alternative is Grammarly).

LinkedIn – I’m still trying to use LinkedIn for content, both reading and publishing. It’s a clunky tool that does has a lot of advantages. The problem I still have is the algorithms and how ineffective they can be.

When I compare Medium or even Facebook, content gets to more readers. So what is it about LinkedIn that’s not working? I’m still not 100% sure, though this article from a few years ago still has some truths. For now I’ll keep going, as I’m convinced the more I learn, change and adapt, before it gets really good, the more effective it will be as a platform.

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5 Share Friday 26 April 2019

Quote I’m pondering “Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.” Anthony J. D’Angelo

Facebook’s role on Brexit – If you vote for anything, in any country where  Facebook is used this is a must watch 15 minutes. It’s an unmissable video showing us how our decisions are now influenced by criminal activity, that we don’t even realise is criminal. If all voters, whether in America or the UK watch and learn from this, there’s a chance  our future will include true democracy again.

People vs devicesThis article really visualises what using your phone is like in other peoples company. I heard a Jennifer Anniston interview recently, where she said Friends the TV series could not be made now. The reason? No one that age sits in a coffee shop and just talks anymore, they’re constantly looking at their devices and using social media..

What I’m watchingThe Good Fight season 3 continues this series’ highly intelligent and humorous drama within an American law firm. What I’m really liking about Season 3 is the focus around politics and fake news. Many people I speak with don’t know or believe there are troll farms and millions of $ being spent on advertising fake truths, Here’s a funny short video I like, on what a Russian troll farm is, made by the Good Fight team.

In an eye opening interview with Eric Schmidt (ex Google CEO), Tim Ferriss manages to highlight so many lessons all of us who work in software companies can benefit from. A key one for me is hiring. This scaling teams lesson with Reid Hoffman (co founder of LinkedIn) is unmissable for anyone building or scaling teams/ companies. I wish more companies would listen and implement the lessons from this class.

In that class, Eric makes a statement that really hits home for me. For a while in the early days, my career trajectory was slower than I expected. I now know it was in part due to others valuing specific experience, rather than my actual offering. Here’s that statement:

“The industry over values experience and under values strategic and intellectual flexibility”- Eric Schmidt.

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How Batman and Clint Eastwood stood in for my dad

Up until my early twenties I had very little time with my dad, so I got creative and used stand-in dads. As crazy as that may sound, it’s true. My parents divorced when I was a toddler and I don’t actually remember a time when my father was living under the same roof.

By the time I was 10 my dad had left the UK to live in America and I’d experienced almost no nurturing male in my life. My mum was strong in many ways and I’m thankful for that, but nurturing was not one of her strengths (she’s didn’t receive it from her family so it didn’t come naturally). I was missing out on this part of childhood completely. It’s widely recognised that one of the key foundations for a successful adulthood is the experience of unconditional love from a primary care giver.

As a young boy I didn’t know what I didn’t know, so unconditional love wasn’t something I longed for, what I did long for was my father. I wanted him around to teach me how to talk to girls (I was useless at that), how to protect myself against bullies, how to defend myself in a violent situation, and answer questions on what was happening to my body. Also just to kick a ball around or watch cartoons together.

So I read comics, comics with strong male leads. Characters like Batman, Spider-man and Swamp Thing became my stand in dads. I watched a lot of films, mainly Clint Eastwood, Gregory Peck and Michael J Fox. I couldn’t kick a ball around with any of them and they weren’t nurturing me, yet I was inspired by each of them in different ways. Through movies like For a Few Dollars More and Back to the Future I could see how two very different characters survived in a world of bullying and greed. Through comics like Batman I learned that I could choose my own path and be successful as a loner or part of a team. I was learning as best I could at how to be a male in a male run world (thankfully it’s more equal nowadays, yet there is long journey ahead still).

I got by, I definitely had times when I was sad, during those times I would stay in my bedroom listening to music, immersing myself into books and comics. What I’m grateful for is that the sad times became less frequent as I matured.

As the years went by I kept up with choosing influences to replace my missing dad. Actors like Robert De Nero, Dustin Hoffman and Jack Nicholson where key in my understanding of attraction and emotional intelligence, all through the roles they’d chosen to act out in movies. In real life I gained a fantastic group of friends, I was able to have fun without feeling guilty and I began to realise the world wasn’t out to get me, it was full of opportunity, I just needed to know how to feed off it.

I realise I still use the method of stand in influences across all areas of life, from the 5 people I choose each January to help me on my 12 month journey ahead, to the books I read and podcasts I listen to.

You may have all the positive influences in your life already, though have you searched for gaps? Maybe you can use stand in influences, adding or filling a space that would help you grow?

“Rather like Batman, I embody the themes of the movie which are the values of family, courage and compassion and a sense of right and wrong, good and bad and justice.” – Gary Oldman

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5 Share Friday 19 April 2019

Quote I’m pondering – “Your praise is contagious – So is your complaint. What are you carrying today?” – Steve Furtick

Spotting fake news – Kids are learning how and so should we. This article explains how the News Literacy project is teaching kids how to spot real news and fake news. With large numbers of people getting their news from social media, we are now entering a real crisis, one where people are making decisions and judgements based on trusting without verifying.

New favourite iOS appSnapseed is the most fantastic free photo editor I’ve ever used on my iPhone. If you take photo’s with your phone then this app is a must have.

Free stories – I’ve joined Storybird where I can get free stories (including kids ones). The main reason I’ve joined is to start publishing my own stories to see how they do and get help and advice from others. I’m only writing short children’s stories at the moment, if anyone is interested just reach out to me and I’ll send a link when I post a story up.

LinkedIn Algorithm explained – This article explains how LinkedIn gets posts in users feeds really well. It’s insightful and I’m adding this to my notes on effective usage of the LinkedIn platform. Here’s a handy graphic from the site.

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