5 Share Friday – 12 Jan 2018

Is it Friday already? Time for some sharing. Funny and useful? Always!

1. Quote I’ve been pondering this week “Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”Andy Rooney

2. Commuting – I thought I had a difficult commute to work, have a look at this video and fee grateful you don’t have this one (unless you’re in the video of course).

3. Privacy… I like to control my computers camera and mic to ensure my privacy (if you have an Alexa type product you might want to read this). I have been using Oversight on the Macbook for a couple of months now, it does a great job of keeping my mic and cam secure. If you have a Macbook take a look, it’s better than a piece of tape (I should let Mark know…)

4. Financial freedom anyone? Yes please! This has been a consistent goal for me for the last 2 years and even though it will take a while I’m determined to reach it. I read this article (a year old) again and if you’re interested in being financially free check it out.

5. Did anyone know that January has been renamed veganuary? A growing movement that’s gaining popularity. We like to be almost meat free in family Purvis, though we’re not strict vegans the rest of the fam have followed my dairy freeness which is great!

People watching

This week while I sit on the train to work I’ve been watching people. Watching the strangers around me on their devices playing games and watching movies or catch up TV. Hardly anyone just sits there anymore; thinking, reading or resting.

It reminded me of Stephen Coveys important vs urgent matrix, where he encourages the majority of our focus on important activities, not urgent ones.

There’s a definite difference between healthy relaxation and time wasting. I wondered how many of the people playing candy crush clones or catching up on The Voice considered either activity healthy relaxation.

Then I realised I was starting to judge, I felt bad. The Voice might be akin to torture for me, though for many it could actually be healthy relaxation (yep, really). In the end I was reminded of another Stephen Covey memory, a situation where he judged others on a train. Here it is in his own words:

“I remember a mini-paradigm shift I experienced one Sunday morning on a subway in New York. People were sitting quietly – some reading newspapers, some lost in thought, some resting with their eyes closed. It was a calm, peaceful scene.

Then suddenly, a man and his children entered the subway car. The children were so loud and rambunctious that instantly the whole climate changed.

The man sat down next to me and closed his eyes, apparently oblivious to the situation. The children were yelling back and forth, throwing things, even grabbing people’s papers. It was very disturbing. And yet, the man sitting next to me did nothing.

It was difficult not to feel irritated. I could not believe that he could be so insensitive as to let his children run wild like that and do nothing about it, taking no responsibility at all. It was easy to see that everyone else on the subway felt irritated too. So finally, with what I felt like was unusual patience and restraint, I turned to him and said, “Sir, your children are really disturbing a lot of people. I wonder if you couldn’t control them a little more?”

The man lifted his gaze as if to come to a consciousness of the situation for the first time and said softly, “Oh, you’re right. I guess I should do something about it. We just came from the hospital where their mother died about an hour ago. I don’t know what to think, and I guess they don’t know how to handle it either.”

Can you imagine what I felt at that moment? My paradigm shifted. Suddenly I saw things differently, and because I saw differently, I thought differently, I felt differently, I behaved differently. My irritation vanished. I didn’t have to worry about controlling my attitude or my behavior; my heart was filled with the mans pain. Feelings of sympathy and compassion flowed freely. “Your wife just died? Oh I’m so sorry! Can you tell me about it? What can I do to help?” Everything changed in an instant.’

You never really know the reasons strangers do what they do. That driver who cut you up on the road may have been racing to the hospital, that person pushing you to get off the train may not have actually seen you. I’m trying to see the good in everyone more. A persons actions do not necessarily define them. I can safely say I know and like people who watch The Voice, it doesn’t mean they like crap TV, it means they like The Voice (and of course torture..).

I love the important vs urgent matrix. If you’re not familiar with it, it’s worth getting familiar.

Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic – Stephen Covey

5 Share Friday – 5 Jan 2018

It’s the first 5 Share of 2018! It’s a little late as I’m suffering from a flu like illness, there is a lot of it going round here in the UK. It’s also why there has been no other posts over the last week. I hope you’re all well and healthy.

1. Quote I’ve been pondering:

2. I’ve been pretty ill this week, lot’s of flu type illness going around. My son hasn’t been ill which is amazing as lots of illness has been at his school. We partly put it down to his daily dose of Elderberry syrup , I’ve started taking it too, it’s like magic.

3. I’ve been using one of these Yumboxes for my lunch when I’m on the move or in the office for 6 months now. My son has one for school too and they revolutionize the lunchbox. Check them out, they are amazing.

4. This week we’ve been listening to the Minions movie soundtrack over breakfast. It’s got some inspirational and fun tunes. I’m going to use it while working next week as have a feeling it’s a good set of tunes for productivity. Check it out, I think you’ll like it.

5. I gave a little gadget to my wife over Christmas. The Tile Mate key finder. It’s awesome and they do other versions too (phone, bag etc.). Cheap and you’ll never not find your keys again!

5 Share Friday – 29 Dec 2017

Christmas is done and the New Year is around the corner. What a year 2018 is going to be (for all of us!). Here are 5 great things from the past 7 days, I hope you enjoy as much as I have.

1. Quote I’ve been pondering this week “Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes for you”Tony Robbins

2. My wife made me a couple of bottles of delicious Vegan Irish cream (like Baileys but without cow’s milk). They were delicious and you can make them too (I recommend the coconut milk one as it’s creamier): https://simpleveganblog.com/vegan-baileys/

3. Each year I choose a word of the year, a word that represents the year ahead. My 2017 word was ‘gratitude’ and it defined my outlook, changing my life dramatically. For 2018 I’ve chosen ‘change’. Change is the theme of my life for the next 12 months and I’m excited and looking forward to it. I follow Claire Diaz Ortiz and a few years ago she inspired my word of the year, maybe she can inspire you too?

4. Gratitude was the word for 2017 and I’ve been reading how gratitude changed others too: https://medium.com/@kevinslavelle/how-a-series-of-initiatives-to-train-gratitude-changed-my-life-in-2017-ead1156963ba

5. Our friends in Canada – George and Clare –  gave my wife and I Zen Pencils volume two: Dream the impossible dream. They also gave our children Zen Pencils Inspirational quotes for kids(check it out it’s fabulous). Zen pencils takes your favourite inspirational quotes and poetry, transforming them into heartwarming cartoon stories (comic strip). Tremendous reading!