5 Share Monday 18 March 2019

Quote I’m pondering“Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.” ― Jack Kerouac

Poem I’m enjoyingUniverse – One Song: Continuing with Jack Kerouac, this article on Brainpickings is a fantastic snapshot of Jack’s kindness with one of his ex lovers. She wrote the poem and found it again decades after his death.

What I’m learningLessons for LinkedIn sharing – 5 important points to consider, like oversharing, sharing without a comment and posting low quality posts. All of which can result in your post not getting seen. Whether you post daily on LinkedIn or hardly at all, you’ll want to read this one by Adrian Dayton.

Staying with LinkedIn – I’m pondering the one thing that Bill Gates does to stand out on LinkedIn. Have a look, it’s simple enough for all of us to consider.

Music for productivity – I’ve been listening to the soundtrack to Simcity. I’ve been using Powerpoint and Excel a lot recently, and I’m finding Simcity music is increasing my productivity in an open office setting. Try it for yourself, it’s a great set of tunes.

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Usually 5 Share Friday, this week it’s 5 Share Monday for one time only (due to illness last week), enjoy!

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The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing

Last week I received my annual invite to our companies hack week. A week where every engineer in Unity (globally) descends on Denmark. We’re also joined by other disciplines throughout the company too, where we all work together to share and innovate.

I say we, though I’ve never taken part. Unity’s hack week takes place in the same week each year, a week that falls at the same time my wife and eldest son have their birthdays. So each year I receive an invite and decline with thanks and gratitude.

Given how legendary this hack week is within Unity, how powerful the by product of the social interaction, and the lessons from others that take place, it should be a hard decision for me, but it isn’t. Perhaps a decade ago, if I’d had my children earlier in life, a time when I hadn’t discovered what’s really important. Though right now I find it easy to put first things first.

You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage—pleasantly, smilingly, nonapologetically, to say “no” to other things. And the way you do that is by having a bigger “yes” burning inside. The enemy of the “best” is often the “good.”Stephen Covey

Of course, I’m very lucky to have worked at Xbox and now Unity. Both respect and honour an employees commitment to their family. Not everyone is as lucky, and decisions between work commitments and family can be difficult to make.

Greg McKeown puts it nicely in his book Essentialism. A few days prior to his daughter’s birth, McKeown’s colleague commented that Friday would be a bad time for his wife to have a baby because the two were scheduled to be in a meeting together. The baby was born on Thursday, and McKeown ended up leaving the hospital hours after his wife gave birth to a healthy 7-pound, 3-ounce little girl in order to attend the meeting.

“The client will respect you for making the decision to be here,” McKeown recalled his colleague saying. But McKeown quickly realised he’d made “a fool’s bargain.”

As Greg’s book cover describes “Essentialism is more than a time-management strategy or a productivity technique. It is a systematic discipline for discerning what is absolutely essential, then eliminating everything that is not, so we can make the highest possible contribution toward the things that really matter.”

In the 6 years since discovering essentialism, I’ve become more comfortable saying no. I also don’t suffer from fear of missing out, and if a company I work for doesn’t respect me putting my family first, then I’m happy to go and work somewhere that does.

Essentialism, putting first things first, the main thing is to keep the main thing is the main thing – Know what’s important to you and life becomes a whole lot easier.

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5 Share Friday 8 March 2019

Quote I’m ponderingHere’s to strong women, May we know them. May we be them. May we raise them.” – Unknown

International Women’s day – David Wiseman wrote a great quick read on LinkedIn for International Women’s day. He highlights an interesting response for when men ask “Why is there no Men’s Day?” That’s because every other day of the year is International Men’s Day.”

Some thoughts on life: A friend forwarded me this piece on Life, laughter, love and the gaping hole left in our collective sense of humour. In it the author states “Right now, too many people are trying to be like Elon Musk and Steve Jobs, but not enough of them are trying to be like John Candy.” I think he’s right and hope you agree. Let’s all be more like John Candy.

“I wish I could go to more meetings,” said no one, ever. – The author of a new book, The Surprising Science of Meetings, has been interviewing over the last few months and this interview is a wonderful insightful on workplace meetings.  In it you’ll see research based ideas on improving meetings, why we need them and how to avoid the ones you don’t need.

For those of you with a WSJ account, he has a great article here also.

Personal brand – I’m thinking about my ‘brand’ more as I’m reading Career Distinction . I’m not sold on seeing myself as a brand, yet I understand it’s somewhat inevitable within a modern workplace. The Marketoonist has a short funny article on personal branding which has me thinking. You can read it here: Marketoonist .Have you thought about your own personal branding?

Have a great weekend everyone!

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Opposites don’t always attract

When I think about communication, I think about 2 preference types. A person who prefers external motivation, and a person who prefers internal motivation.

I have an internally motivated preference. I don’t need others to motivate me in order to thrive. If there’s a problem, there’s no need to pepper it with positivity or other external factors to get me going. In fact, if you do so then I might even be suspicious of the intent.

When I meet others who have the same preference (most of us rarely think about which preference we have) a spark usually happens, where conversation flows easily, we are mutually inspired, and misunderstanding rarely happens.

When I interact with people who’s preference is external motivation it’s easy to feel a little difficulty, as free flowing conversation and mutual inspiration are rarely present. That’s ok, I know I have to adapt to each and every interaction. What I’m pondering is why I’m noticing it more than before? Am I changing, is the world around me changing? The answer of course is both, yet what I’ve realised is I’m surrounded by more people with an opposite communication preference than any time I can remember.

So lately I’m spending a lot of focus working on positive messaging, as well as  understanding the negative impact that comes from not understanding another person’s communication preference.

This is actually a wonderful and hugely challenging situation. I’m learning something, something that may already be obvious to many. Yet until now I can only wonder what the negative impact of not working on this has had on my previous interactions.

Where I thrive on hearing that everything is blowing up and no one believes it can change (as I will believe it can), a large proportion of people around me want to hear the opposite. They want to hear what good came from the blowing up and who supports and believes in them. There’s nothing wrong with either preference, though once you understand yours you can build on it and much stronger relationships.

If I’d have realised my preference years ago, it’s a safe bet I would have had many more positive outcomes, in and out of work.

Does all this sound obvious to you? Do you know your preference?

I don’t need to hear what good came from an explosion, I’m already working on clearing up the mess and understanding what caused it, what would you be doing?

“You have power over your mind―not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.” ―Marcus Aurelius